What to say to a girl if she's bored. What to do if a girl is bored? How to keep her interested

When a girl becomes sad, bored and sad with you, then there will definitely not be sex. 60 simple ways to entertain a girl and yourself.

1. go to the movies (especially horror movies: you’ll hug and be afraid together)
2. play snowballs and make a woman
3. go to the skating rink
4. teach how to play billiards
5. karting (take a ride - get adrenaline)
6. city quests
7. walk in the center, in parks (not a button accordion, but a classic)
8. make a horn in some bar, club
9. cottage/walk through the forest (fireplace, bathhouse, barbecue, guitar...)
10. bowling (exciting and fun)
11. horseback ride
12. skydive
13. tea ceremony (you can paint yourself like the Japanese and have a tea party at home)
14. arrange the shooting of an amateur film (a lot of entertainment at once - writing a script, filming, editing, uploading to YouTube, spamming the contact sheet in Ace, flooding the forums with the ceremonial presentation of a link to the film, a trip to Cannes for a prize for the best amateur video (or “golden member” competition, depending on the genre of the film)
15. water park
16. exhibitions and museums (there are very unusual ones)
17. trip to another city
18. handcuffs, whip

19. leave the girl (extreme)
20. study of the Schrödinger equation
21. sign up together for aikido, Latin dance, Chinese language courses
22. go to a commie rally
23. play tic-tac-toe
24. bring a lady and show a shadow theater
25. go to the zoo
26. to the library (in a quiet, distant corner...)
27. curling
28. pub with darts
29. trash band concert
30. go boating/kayaking
31. karaoke
32. cafe with hookah
33. sit with a bottle of wine on the roof of a high-rise building
34. play the fool (preference, stripping)
35. get married

36. dinner by candlelight
37. fighting with laser swords
38. rent bicycles and ride (rollerblades, skis)
39. sauna
40. anti-shopping (wander around the shops and not buy anything)
41. buy lottery tickets
42. circus (you can organize it yourself)
43. start installing Linux (patch KDE2 for fryukha)
44. opera, ballet, theater
45. digging (climbing through the sewer)
46. ​​quiet evening watching TV
47. plant a tree together
48. look at the moons of Jupiter, but you will need a telescope (if your girl’s eyes light up like stars, then it’s time to uncover the telescope)
49. ride on the children's railway
50. go on an excursion with a girl to any city
51. invite the girl to devote the day to photography
52. have sex
53. and then one more time

54. offer to have sex with 2 of her girlfriends, if she starts beating you, then say that she was joking
55. buy a puzzle and put it together
56. read books out loud to each other
57. get offended, go to different rooms, and start exchanging text messages
58. do something occult - for example, tell fortunes on cards, runes. For extreme sports enthusiasts - tying spirits at midnight
59. play trust: one person is blindfolded or black opaque glasses are put on, and the second must take him “to the bus stop/home/through the park” or simply lead him to a beautiful place
60. give a massage and put the bed to bed

Nikita7415

I’ve been dating a girl for half a year, I love her very much, I pay a lot of attention to her, I give her flowers and gifts. We somehow had a big fight and even broke up, but after a couple of weeks everything worked out and we were together again. But not even a month had passed since she said that she was bored with me, there were no topics for conversation...

I think that this is not the main thing, because it is more important that she be calm and comfortable with me, I’m not a clown!

And I also think that we have not yet moved away from litter, and over time everything will get better and we will have something to talk about.

What do you think could be the problem?

Nikita7415, good afternoon. Please write how old you and your girlfriend are. What do you think it means when a girl says that you don’t have common topics of conversation?
The psychologist will answer you after a while, for now I recommend that you familiarize yourself with our section

Nikita7415, hello! Let's figure out your questions together.
It is very important that in a couple the interests and basic expectations of the girl and the guy coincide. If a girl wants interesting and rich communication, and the main thing for you is peace and comfort, then you are looking for different things in a relationship. If you love your girl and want her to want to be with you and be happy, then you can’t just brush aside her desires, saying “and I don’t think this is the main thing - I’m not your clown.” This demonstrates to your girlfriend that her interests and desires have no value to you - only your desires have value to you.
Put yourself in her place - what would you think about your girlfriend’s attitude towards you if you heard from her - “It doesn’t matter to me that you want peace and comfort, because the main thing for me is to have fun and communicate with friends.” How would you feel at such a moment?

Nikita7415

I probably wouldn’t be pleased to hear this, but still, how can I get her out to the cinema or for a walk if she is constantly busy, constantly studying, even on weekends?
There are many topics that can be discussed, but I somehow don’t know how to approach these topics

Nikita7415, you’ve been dating a girl for six months, you say that you love her, but you don’t know what you can talk to her about? Are you interested in her life? What are her hobbies? What attracts her?

If a girl is constantly busy studying, then most likely her area of ​​interest is somewhere in the field of the specialty for which she is studying. What profession did she choose for herself?
If a girl is not interested in a walk and a movie, then she will not make contact with you. She is probably interested in something else - sports, theater, dancing... Try to remember what she usually told you about with enthusiasm to understand what might interest her

Nikita7415

Even before the start of the school year, she said that we would rarely see each other, because this year is very important for her and she wants support from me, and not constant arguments “why do we rarely see each other”
She recently said that she needs new communication, new acquaintances. Could this be due to the fact that we didn’t communicate enough and this is how she wants to compensate for the lack of communication?

She is in 11th grade, and I constantly ask “How are you? How was your day?”

Nikita7415, no, Nikita, if she lacked communication only with you, then she would simply call or write to you. She wants variety - new faces, new experiences, new interests.
If your friend is in her senior year, then she is really all about her studies - after all, a lot depends on this. So there is little time left for communication and she probably distributes it somehow between you and her other friends - girlfriends with whom she has common affairs and interests.

You have already mentioned that you and your girl have different ideas about relationships - she wants interesting communication, and you want peace and comfort. This is probably where your interests diverge. It’s good that you are caring and constantly ask her “How are you?, How was your day?” But she’s probably not very interested in just reporting to you how her day was. She probably wants to talk about something interesting to take her mind off her studies.

Nikita7415

How should I change and find common interests? For example, she is learning Polish. Or just show off your other advantages?

Nikita7415, finding common interests is a good way to establish contact with a girl. There will be topics for communication and shared leisure time. You can, for example, practice Polish together.
If you want to show off your other strengths, that’s also good.

Nikita7415

It’s just that communication is not the most important thing for me, it should be, he is not in the first place, for me it is more important that it is good, calm with the person, that there is confidence in the future

Nikita7415, if you want a girl to be with you, then you need to think not only about what is important to YOU, but what SHE wants, what SHE likes. If she doesn’t need “confidence in the future” because she is only 16-17 years old and she is not looking for a serious long-term relationship yet, she is not getting ready to get married, then you should take this into account. For her, this factor is not important. She wants something new, interesting, varied, and not constant, calm and long-term.
Perhaps you should find yourself a friend with views on relationships that are in tune with yours - the same lover of peace and comfort. It is very difficult to build relationships, especially at a young age, when the interests and needs of a guy and a girl are different - it’s hard to be together when you enjoy completely different things and have a different lifestyle.

When a couple ends their sweet-bouquet period, they may approach it differently. And if a guy takes this for granted, then the girl may catch herself thinking that she clearly does not have enough attention. To avoid such cases, the guy must find out the girl’s hobbies, and then he can support her aspirations.

Of course, it’s good if a guy and a girl find a common hobby that they will do together: ballroom dancing, drawing lessons, playing musical instruments, swimming lessons. This way they will not only develop spiritually or physically, but also strengthen their relationships.

And so that the girl does not feel deprived of attention, the guy must show concern in the little things: open the door for his girlfriend, give her his hand when she gets out of public transport or out of the car, etc. Also, significant dates are very important for many women, so it’s better for a guy to try to remember them (perhaps write them down). This could be the day they met or the day when the first declaration of love was made. By the way, it would be very nice if the guy himself reminds the lady of his heart about this and makes gifts, even symbolic ones, in connection with this date.

If a girl is bored when her boyfriend goes somewhere for a long time, then you can try to take her with you. Perhaps her other half will be so captivated by the activity that it will become a joint hobby, or maybe she will consider this activity uninteresting and then will no longer prevent the guy from going away sometimes.

When thinking about what to do if a girl is bored, you can assume that the problem is not at all with her man, but with herself. Unfortunately, everyone experiences depression when nothing makes them happy and everything seems meaningless. In this case, you just need to help cope with your worries and support your loved one. But if she is always in this state and demands that the guy continuously entertain her, then it’s worth thinking about whether such a relationship is necessary at all.

If a guy still decides that he wants to help his girlfriend cope with boredom, then you can arrange a romantic surprise date for her. For example, somewhere outside the city - clean air and harmony with nature are very important things for residents of a metropolis. Or arrange dinner on the roof of a high-rise building, or offer to jump with a parachute, or raft down a mountain river.

Or maybe the girl would prefer to go to a contemporary art exhibition or to the theater. In this case, even if her boyfriend is not enthusiastic about such leisure activities, it is better to prepare in advance and not just take the girl there, but also show your knowledge in this matter. If a girl passionately loves dancing, then you can invite her to a fashionable nightclub.

In general, it all depends on what kind of environment the girl has and what she is like. Maybe she is quiet and would prefer a good book as a gift, or, on the contrary, she is active and sociable and wants to spend a sleepless night in a club to the rhythms of music. You just need to study her preferences and arrange a surprise - one that she will be delighted with, and then not a single guy will think of saying “my girlfriend is bored with me.”

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And here there are 2 possible situations:

• You met a girl and asked her out on a first date
• You've been dating a girl for quite a long time

Now let's figure it out these situations with real life examples.

Situation No. 1

Nikolai guy, absolutely accidentally met a girl on the street, she walked past and smiled at him on a beautiful spring sunny day, and then Nikolai came up to her and started telling her some nonsense, and in the end the girl gave him her phone number.

He came home with a smile on his face and wrote her an SMS asking her out on a date, and the girl agreed.

But after the first date the girl no longer answered his numerous calls.

Why is this, and what did Nikolai do wrong?

Actually a girl I just got bored, and she decided not to date this guy anymore.

During communication, Nikolai only spoke on logical topics, and girls are by nature emotional creatures, emotions are very important to them, much more important than logic.

Example of logical communication:

Guy: Yesterday I went to work and at work I disassembled a multi-spindle machine into the following parts:

• Spindle
• Tailstock
• Headstock, etc.

As a result, I took it apart for half a day and finally assembled it by the evening.

Girl: I see (sits and gets bored)

Therefore never don't talk logically to a girl, because if you continue this, she will not agree to a 2nd date.

Situation No. 2

Guy Vasya has been dating and living with his girlfriend for a long time, but after a while he notices that the girl begins to grow cold towards him, begins to constantly express something to him and show her dissatisfaction.

This means that the girl very boring in relationships, she has a sharp deficit in emotions.

She misses crazy adventures, for example, jump with a parachute, ride a bike from a huge mountain in winter, swim in an ice hole for baptism etc

But the guy doesn’t understand this at all and continues to lead a boring lifestyle, at most he goes to the cinema with her, and that’s where it all ends.

So, I answer the question “ How to make a girl not get bored?»

The answer is simple, she needs to be given crazy emotions, since without them the girl fades, she becomes terribly bored and, most likely, if the guy doesn’t change, she will leave him for another cheerful guy.

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The last time you talked to a girl, you mumbled something incoherent about your math homework, then mentioned going to the dentist, and then started snapping your fingers in awkward silence while the girl looked at the floor? Don't worry, this has happened to all guys. It's okay, if you prepare and put in the effort, the next time you talk to her, she will be extremely interested.

Steps

Where to begin

Start with a casual theme. In your first conversation with a girl, choose a light topic that you both can talk about quite casually without feeling awkward. Don't talk to her about the strange rash on your back or ask her to tell you about the most embarrassing situation in her life; you can talk about it when you get to know each other better. Choose neutral topics to start a conversation she feels comfortable with. Don't use bad language. She wants to be treated like a lady! Here are some safe but fun topics to get you started:

• your favorite bands;
• the last movies you watched;
• your pets;
• your brothers and sisters;
• what you did this weekend or what you plan to do next weekend;
• your plans for the holidays.

1. Avoid personal topics. This rule goes hand in hand with starting a conversation on a light topic. You'll be able to have deeper conversations once she gets to know you better, but for now it's best to avoid talking about deaths in the family, your first lovers, strange illnesses, or fears of death. If you feel like you have an instant connection with your girl, you can quickly move on from chatting to more important topics, but you should avoid getting too personal when you first start talking to a girl, otherwise she may back off.

   • Okay, if she started a personal conversation and wants to continue it, then you can support it and see where it leads, but still be wary.
   • Pay attention to the girl's facial expression and body language. If she backs down or seems upset when you ask her something simple, then it may be a sensitive topic for her.

2. Keep smiling. If you smile and act positively, you can keep her interested and make her want to continue the conversation. While you shouldn't smile until your cheeks go numb, it's worth taking advantage of every opportunity. This will show the girl that you really enjoy talking to her and will leave a positive impression of you. You may be so nervous that you forget to smile, so remind yourself of this.

   • A smile is especially important when you first start talking to a girl, and also at the end of the conversation. It is important to start and end on a good note.

3. Look into her eyes. Eye contact is the key to making a girl feel important and to see that you really care about what she has to say. You may feel awkward when talking to her and start looking around just because you are afraid to look at her, but try to get rid of this habit. You don't have to look into her eyes with intensity and love because that might scare her - just look into her eyes while you talk to make her feel important. If you have trouble looking someone in the eye or prefer to avoid eye contact, look at her nose—look, but don't stare. Not everyone is good at maintaining eye contact during a conversation; tell her about it - if she is worthy of your attention, she will understand.

4. Ask her questions. This is the key to making a girl feel special as quickly as possible. You can show you care by asking questions about her or what she's been up to lately. The questions don't have to be very personal - they don't have to - but you do need to show your interest in her and her life. If she doesn't ask you anything, then you should stop asking questions for a while - perhaps she feels like she's being interrogated. Here are some topics for questions:

   • her hobbies and interests;
   • her favorite bands, books and TV shows;
   • her favorite subjects at school;
   • her dream job;
   • her best friends;
   • her plans.

5. Give her a compliment. After talking a little, you can give her a small compliment to make her feel appreciated. Give sincere compliments, don’t lie. You can compliment her sweater, her new haircut, jewelry, or even a personality trait. Don't be too specific (“You have great legs”) because it will make her feel uncomfortable. Don't overstep your boundaries, choose something neutral and show her that you care.

   • One compliment per conversation will be enough. Don't bombard her with compliments or act like you're not sincere in your words.

   How to keep her interested

   1. Find common themes. Once you've started a conversation, look for common ground to make it easier to find topics to talk about. It is not necessary to have common interests, but if you find them, the conversation will be easier. When you talk to a girl, try to determine if you have anything in common - maybe you grew up in the same city, maybe you like the same sport, or you have a mutual friend or teacher.

      • Talking about something in common will help you open up, enjoy the conversation, and talk about new topics. For example, you can talk about how much you love football, and then move on to the craziest stories that happened to you at the stadium, and then discuss your favorite places in the city.
      • Let things take their course - don't try to find out if she likes the same thing as you. Try to keep the conversation open, otherwise it will stop if she doesn't share your interests. For example, instead of saying, “Have you seen Frozen? This is my new favorite movie,” instead say, “Have you seen anything interesting lately?”

   2. Ask her opinion. This is another way to keep the conversation going and show her that you actually enjoy talking to her and she means something to you. If you ask her opinion, she will see that you see her as an individual and that you truly value her opinion. You can ask about the political situation in the country or even if she likes your new shoes. She will understand that you are not just trying to hit on her, but that you respect her as a person.

      • Don't ask her questions that can only be answered with "yes" or "no"; ask questions that can be answered in detail so that she has something to talk about. Use “What do you think about...” instead of “Do you think that...”.

   3. Use your surroundings. If you're nervous and feel like the conversation is fading, look around to see what you can use in your environment to your advantage. Maybe there is a concert poster hanging behind you, then you can ask if the girl likes this group. Maybe you are standing outside a coffee shop, then ask her if she goes there to read. This doesn't mean you should immediately look around as soon as the conversation begins; look for clues in your surroundings when awkward pauses begin to arise between you.

      • This is a creative way to keep her interested and continue the conversation. She will be impressed by how observant you are.

   4. Make her laugh . If you want to maintain a girl's interest, it would be a good idea to make her laugh. If you make a girl laugh, she'll want to continue talking to you, so look for situations that can be infused with humor. You can gently laugh at yourself, joke kindly about a mutual friend, or tell her a joke if you think it will make her laugh. If you have a funny story that can really make you laugh, you can tell it as long as it's not too long and complicated. Don't overdo it, but look for ways to make her laugh.

      • If you don't have a natural sense of humor, then don't try to be something you're not. The girl will see that you are trying and will begin to feel sorry for you. Instead, you can just be yourself, and if you can make her laugh in the process, great!
      • If you don't know a girl well, don't tease her unless you're already flirting and teasing each other. She may misunderstand this and become offended, which is definitely not what you wanted.

   5. Don't turn the conversation into a one-sided monologue. Some guys are so worried about not seeming boring that the girl ends up not being able to get a word in the conversation. Maintaining interest does not mean talking incessantly. Speak, but give her the opportunity to speak too. Stop from time to time - she probably also has something to say. You shouldn’t put everything on yourself. Of all the time you spend talking, you should talk only half, no more (or a little more if you are shy).

      • If you constantly talk about yourself, you will look narcissistic, and she will not want to continue this conversation.

   6. Ask about her interests. Almost all girls love to talk about what is special to them, so be sure to ask her about what she does in her free time, how often she does it, and why she likes it, and also find out why it is for her so important. You won't have to persuade her for long - you will notice how her face lights up when she starts talking about what is really important to her.

      • If she doesn't go into detail when discussing her interests, share yours.

   How to end a conversation

   1. Show her what makes you stand out from the crowd. You don't have to be able to do a backflip to impress her. However, it's a good idea to end the conversation so that she thinks she's gotten to know you a little and understands what makes you stand out from the crowd. Maybe it's your sense of humor, your charm, or your love of playing the guitar. Whatever it is, open up to her and show her who you really are. This way, when she meets you again, she will have something to talk about with you and will have pleasant memories from the previous conversation.

      • This does not mean at all that you need to tell her everything about yourself in the first 10-15 minutes of the conversation. Tell a few interesting facts about your life - that will be enough. If you only talk about “the weather” all the time, you will never be able to truly get to know each other.

   2. Don't overdo it. Remember to relax and be yourself, and that the girl is just as nervous as you are. This means that you should not tell her fake stories to get her attention. For example, don't talk about your love for motorcycles just because you think it will make you sound cool. Also, don't swear or say nasty things about other people just because you think it will get her attention. Just take a deep breath, relax, and talk about things you would talk about with your friend instead of putting on a show for the girl.

      • If you overdo it, the girl will notice it. Your goal is to show her that you enjoy communicating with her, but not to show that it is very important to you.

   3. Be positive . When you feel the conversation is coming to an end, end it on a positive note, no matter what you were talking about. If you spent the last five minutes complaining about your parents, teachers, the weather, or anything else that upset you, then the girl is unlikely to have a good impression of the conversation with you. Your goal is to make the girl feel positive vibes and remember that you were fun to talk to, not boring or even painful.

      • You can only complain when there is something that irritates both of you. But even in this case - in moderation. Save your complaints for someone who knows you a little better.

   4. Don't forget about self-confidence. Remember to remain confident while speaking. Show her that you believe in what you say and that you are happy with yourself. If she feels this, then she will understand that you are at peace with yourself, that you are fun and easy to communicate with. If you're nervous, putting yourself down, or talking about how you can't find a topic to talk about, she'll feel uncomfortable and less likely to want to talk to you again.

      • You don't have to act like you're the most interesting person in the world or like you're so sexy you could be a movie star; just show that you are happy to be yourself(isn’t that true?), and everything else will follow.
      • There is a fine line between boasting and self-confidence. If you show off too much, it will turn her off.